THE MINDSET SHIFT- Those who have been victimized often continue self-identifying as victims long after their abuse. They get stuck feeling helpless, hopeless and powerless over their feelings, their choices, and their life. This hinders recovery, redemption and restoration growth. Getting proper care, support and resources at the right time is important for recovery. The road forward is about moving beyond your feelings and beliefs of powerlessness. Learned helplessness is

What if you no longer had to carry shame? The guilt. The heaviness. The quiet voice that keeps replaying what happened—what you’ve done, or what was done to you. Shame needs secrecy, silence and judgement to grow in the inner man. (says Gods word Psalm 139, Psalm 51 & Brene Brown... haha) What if that voice wasn’t the loudest one in your life anymore? Together, we’ll trace where that shame first took root. The Holy Spirit will gently expose the lies you’ve been believing, the

Breathe — You Are Not to Blame Dear Woman/Man of Worth: Breathe. Let me tell you right now — this is not your fault. You didn’t cause this. You are not responsible for someone else’s sin, addiction, or betrayal. What you are  responsible for is your healing, and you can heal. You can recover. You can thrive again. Allow Yourself to Rest and Begin to Feel Rest is not just physical — it's emotional, mental, spiritual. For me, rest began when I stopped minimizing what happened.

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To Cristina Gurney A beautiful soul. One whom I miss and I wish I would have gotten to know deeply. The loss of your life has forever changed me and the way I do friendships.  Proverbs 2 “Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.“ Prov 20:5. Oh how I wished this was true of our sisterhood. Looking forward to our time in heaven! You are forever missed and cherished! My Abba, Jesus, you are my delight, my treasure! Thank you fo

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Resource Websites: We believe God desires you to be secure, safe and free irregaurdless if your spouse changes or not. The Mend Project - Support for victims of relational abuse TheBrave One- Support for the impact of Intimate Sexual Betrayal His Invisible Hands - Healing Restoration Groups & Individual Mentorship/Coaching The Relationship Resource - Online/in person Workshops & Marriage Intensives The Allender Center - Healing journeys for sexual abuse Pacific Counseli

Making a Report for Sexual Abuse If you witness or suspect abuse, please contact the Abuse Hotline at  1-800-96-Abuse   (1-800-962-2873) The California Abuse Hotline accepts reports 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, of known or suspected child abuse, neglect or abandonment. If you ever suspect a minor is in immediate danger, contact 911 There are four ways to make a report: Telephone:  Please immediately contact the Child Protection Hotline at (800) 540-4000 If Calling from Outs